It’s mind over matter ………… You can do it
How often have we heard that in our lifetime, from our parents, grandparents, friends etc.
We have a fear or are not sure about something, and that fear escalates in our head until its threefold and you can’t get away from it.
But its mind over matter……
We are all capable of achieving so much in our lives if only some of us didn’t have that small inkling of fear trickling away in our heads and hearts.
When I first got my diagnosis of dementia, my consultant told me that I was now classed as vulnerable because I don’t remember. I felt scared and frightened which when I look back is ridiculous as I have always been independent and when I took stock of what was or is my life. I am still independent. But back then, because vulnerability is a negative statement and I got a bit scared of going out on my own, scared of opening the door to someone in case they knew I had dementia and could take advantage.
I have only been a victim once and that is when I was in an abusive relationship a long time ago, then I made a stand and got rid of him and vowed I would never be a victim again.
Being scared of someone is one thing, being scared of something is another. But at the end of it, its all under the same umbrella of being a victim of your own fear.
The first time I used the bus I was terrified, terrified of missing my stop, sat near the bell and as time went on it became easier. I have always been aware for what or who is about, so some things don’t change. I still sit near the bell because it is easier for me knowing that I can stop the bus when I want to.
It’s quite easy to become a hermit, not see anyone for days. Yes, I have friends but they all have their own lives, as I do. I make myself go out visit friends, go to groups, go walking.
The only time I used to feel vulnerable and that is when I get tired, my speech gets slurred and my gait isn’t very good. But I carry a collapsible walking stick in my handbag and I take that out if needed. And I don’t go out if I am extra tired because my brain and thought processes get a bit sluggish and I don’t feel safe.
We are in charge of our own lives and we need to make a stand. The dementia shouldn’t be making us a victim.
Have a good day ♥